Venus Envy
By Jerry Leach
God will give us all we need for living a truly good life, saving us from the lust and rottenness all around us. 2 Peter 1:3
In a recent issue of a popular woman's magazine, there was an article entitled, "Boys will be Girls." It told about the effects of the feminist movement upon the gender confusion that prevails in our society today.
The International Foundation for Gender Education claims that an estimated 3 to 5 percent of the male population likes to cross-dress.
Testimonials arrive in our office on a regular basis from bewildered men, most of whom are heterosexual, some of whom are married, expressing their pain in wanting to be able to dress like and be women on a part-time basis.
Gender-dysphoria is a much more wide-spread phenomenon than our society is willing to admit. And I believe that the feminist movement has played a large role in the deception. Veronica Vera, a devout feminist and transvestite/transsexual advocate, said in the October Issue of "Bazaar Magazine" that cross-dressing is "the flip side of the feminist movement. The feminist movement was all about needing to share in the male experience, to get out of the bedrooms and into the boardrooms. But, meanwhile, men have suffered from what I call Venus envy. There is a deep need in men to feel soft, to be glamorous, to do housework."
More has gone into the shaping of trans-gender confusion than the feminist movement, but it has played a very significant role in ushering in untold suffering in men and women's lives.
ENVY is the root evil in the trans-gender lifestyle. This envy of the feminine (or masculine, by girls) is deeply entrenched in one's thoughts and emotions by puberty. The normal joys of childhood are stolen by the incessant demands of envy. When a little boy should be praying for a new tonka truck, he earnestly prays to wake up in the morning as a girl.
Rita Bennett addressed gender dysphoria in her Fall `93 newsletter: "What causes a man to want to lose his identity? In one example his parents had wanted a girl from birth.
Children who are not wanted (or whose gender is strongly rejected) don't have a sense of being. Serious illnesses can also have harmful psychological effects on children. Then, too, he may have felt he never could measure up to what had been modeled as male."
The underlying difficulty (sin) in the trans-gender confusion is envying the role of the opposite sex. It appears that life would have been much more tolerable if only God would have assigned another sexual role. Many extol the notion that they are simply caught in a "third-sex" syndrome. Others profess that they are simply expressing their dominant feminine/masculine side when cross-dressing.
ENVY IS THE BASIC ROOT-ISSUE that needs to be directly confronted in unlocking the mystery and confusion for the transvestite and transsexual. A simple (yet profound) exercise is to write out just what one envies about the other sex. The next part of the exercise is to record those things you find so distasteful about your own sex. It is easy to see that envy is the nutrient feeding our inner lust.
Cross-dressing is not just an innocent act. It is the result of deep-seated envy and will never be satisfied with the status-quo of occasional episodes of crossing gender lines in mannerisms and dress. As Jessica Errico said of her transsexual brother, "I realized that his lifetime struggle had not been to become something or someone, but to destroy something. It seemed to me that Jim was shaking his fist at God, saying, `I hate the way you made me, and see . . . I did something about it.'"
Envy nourishes our lusts and will never be satisfied until we are consumed by fantasies, self-destructive behavior, and excruciating emotional pain. Ultimately, we lose touch with reality and jeopardize our relationship with God. As one famous transsexual female impersonator said on a recent television talk-show, "Reality and I have parted company a long time ago."
It is helpful to understand that "Blessed (happy, to be envied) is the man who is patient under trial and stands up under temptation, for when he has stood the test and been approved, he will receive (the victor's) crown of life which God has promised to those who love Him. Let no one say when he is tempted, I am tempted from God; for God is incapable of being tempted by (what is) evil and He Himself tempts no one. But every person is tempted when he is drawn away, enticed and baited by his own evil desire (lust, passions). Then the evil desire, when it has conceived, gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully matured, brings forth death. Do not be misled, my beloved brethren." James 1:12-16 (Amplified)
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